I don't think you are emotionally stunted, nor do I think you have no shot at maintaining a healthy relationship.
However, if you offend or hurt someone you care about then you DO owe it to them to do what it takes to bring them back to a place of not being hurt. If I break something that belongs to someone I'm responsible for replacing it. Same thing goes for emotions. If you inflicted pain, then it isn't about you anymore it is about the person you care about and their needs. If they need talking for them to get back to a good place then if it was your fault they were hurt it is your responsibility to repair that hurt.
All in all everybody has bad days where things blow up. Don't worry. Life gets better. It always gets better.
I totally get having low patience. It is one of my biggest flaws, especially when I'm annoyed. It takes a lot of work, but if it means a lot to you to change, then I have faith that you can. You are a strong willed and passionate person. I think that anything you truely put your mind to you can accomplish.
I think the biggest thing for me is that I express gratefulness different then some people. I prefer to compliment whatever it was that I am grateful for than just saying "thank you". I find out people get really offended thinking I'm not grateful. I get super frustrated at them because they don't see all the things I DO to express being grateful. Then I just had to realize that it meant more to me for them to know I am grateful then it is hard to express it in a way that means something to them. It is still a struggle every single time to change.
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Date: 2011-10-10 07:54 pm (UTC)However, if you offend or hurt someone you care about then you DO owe it to them to do what it takes to bring them back to a place of not being hurt. If I break something that belongs to someone I'm responsible for replacing it. Same thing goes for emotions. If you inflicted pain, then it isn't about you anymore it is about the person you care about and their needs. If they need talking for them to get back to a good place then if it was your fault they were hurt it is your responsibility to repair that hurt.
All in all everybody has bad days where things blow up. Don't worry. Life gets better. It always gets better.
I totally get having low patience. It is one of my biggest flaws, especially when I'm annoyed. It takes a lot of work, but if it means a lot to you to change, then I have faith that you can. You are a strong willed and passionate person. I think that anything you truely put your mind to you can accomplish.
I think the biggest thing for me is that I express gratefulness different then some people. I prefer to compliment whatever it was that I am grateful for than just saying "thank you". I find out people get really offended thinking I'm not grateful. I get super frustrated at them because they don't see all the things I DO to express being grateful. Then I just had to realize that it meant more to me for them to know I am grateful then it is hard to express it in a way that means something to them. It is still a struggle every single time to change.