Thank you. I think this is very well said. I'm much more ambivalent about having kids, and, given my situation, probably most likely to just never do so. However, I do love children, and feel that more intelligent, stable people need to be having kids. I often feel guilty about how selfish my reasons for not breeding are: I'm frankly terrified of pregnancy and the first year. I'm terrified about permanent physical damage to my body. I'm terrified about feeling physically trapped in a body that doesn't just do whatever I want it to. The appearance aspects bother me less, but the functional parts terrify me.
I don't particularly care for babies, and I need to be doing things or I go crazy. The only way I could even imagine it is with a partner who was going to become the primary parent, because I know I could never handle staying home with a child, even for the first 15 months until child-care stops being ridiculously expensive. I love kids, but mostly I've decided that I'm the sort of person who is better off taking care of other people's children.
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Date: 2013-06-27 10:48 am (UTC)I don't particularly care for babies, and I need to be doing things or I go crazy. The only way I could even imagine it is with a partner who was going to become the primary parent, because I know I could never handle staying home with a child, even for the first 15 months until child-care stops being ridiculously expensive. I love kids, but mostly I've decided that I'm the sort of person who is better off taking care of other people's children.